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With the Couple Checkup® you will be able to see your relationship with more answers that questions.
Get ready to gain the deeper insights so that you can make healthy choices for your future.
Attach your official Couple Checkup® Assessment to your Cohabitation Agreement as proof you are entering into your legal contract with a clear and loving vision of what your shared future together will be like.
The Couple Checkup® is an online assessment that helps couples explore and assess where they stand regarding all the key topics that are vital for a succcessful and satisfying relationship.
As you review your results, you will each discover your strengths and issues – what you're doing well and what you can do better.
Over the past two decades more than two million couples of every background have used the Couple Checkup® to go beyond 'good advice' and:
Gain a deeper insight into every aspect of their relationship.
Explore their expectations of their relationship and what their future together will be like.
See their path to commitment with more answers than questions.
You bring to your relationship all kinds of expectations.
Some you will have picked up from your family background and from previous relationships. Others you may have absorbed from TV, movies, books and popular culture.
But unless you talk openly about your expectations, your partner may not know what they are. It's difficult for a partner to live up to expectations or 'ground rules' they don't know about!
Accept your own expectations – and your partner's. These hopes and dreams – and even the 'you shoulds' – are signs of deep needs and unhealed childhood hurts.
Your relationship cannot meet them all, but writing them off will leave each of you feeling unaccepted, alone, resentful.
You'll become annoyed and angry that your partner isn't reading your thoughts, hearing your unspoken expectations, and magically creating the perfect, happy-ever-after relationship you want.
Taking the Couple Checkup® will help you decide which expectations you can meet for each other – whether in the present or when you buy and manage a home or become parents.
Can you please your partner by meeting his or her needs, even if they aren't part of your personal view of the perfect relationship? Once you've shared your personal expectations and compared notes with your partner, you can discuss them as a way of getting to know each other more deeply.
The Couple Checkup® covers all the topics that have been proven to most influence relationship success.
If you are struggling with issues in your relationship, be assured that all couples have challenges they need to overcome.
Below you can see the results of a survey of over 50,000 committed couples from around the world conducted by the creators of the Couple Checkup.
It reveals the top six issues that can cause disagreements.
By completing the Couple Checkup® you can begin to identify both your relationship strengths and the issues that need attention.
You will also spur productive and insightful conversations that lead to action and change.
"None of my past serious relationships failed because we didn't love each other anymore. It was not a matter of love at all. These relationships failed because one of us didn't love our life together.
We were unable to create a life that we both loved. I was kind of shocked when I thought of this: you mean just because you love someone doesn't mean you're going to love your life together? No one had ever said this."
You each respond to about 130 statements about your relationship – as you see it now and as you see it developing in the future.
Your responses are compiled into a personalised, 20-page in-depth report that shows your strengths and challenges as a couple. (see sample)
You and your partner use the Couple Checkup Report as the basis for discussing how you want to move forward into the future.
Your Cohabitation Agreement expresses your shared vision of your life together in a legal document.
Ensure your Cohabitation Agreement is based on a solid foundation of open and honest sharing of all relevant information by:
Each completing an official Couple Checkup® relationship assessment.
Attaching your Couple Checkup® report as an exhibit to your Cohabitation Agreement.
Expect to each spend 30 minutes completing the assessment.
The following payment methods are accepted:
4.2 Couple Expectations
|4.2.1||[Romeo] and [Juliet] have each sought, over time and in depth, to deepen their knowledge and understanding of themselves, of each other, and of their relationship, as it has developed in the past, as it stands currently and as they foresee it blossoming into the future.|
|4.2.2||[Romeo] and [Juliet], aided by insights from the Couple Checkup®, have sought to discover where they stand with regard to issues that are vital in a lifelong relationship, to appreciate and affirm the positives that make their relationship loving, nurturing and special, to identify all issues that effect how their relationship can thrive and grow, and to express and share their deepest expectations of their future together.|
|4.2.3||[Romeo] and [Juliet]have each completed the online Couple Checkup® process and obtained their results in a personalised feedback report, a copy of which is attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.|
|4.2.4||[Romeo] and [Juliet], in a dialogue facilitated by a certified relationship professional, have each additionally explored and shared all issues arising from their engagement with the Couple Checkup® process. A copy of the professional's Certificate of Attendance is attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.|