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Who are you really? Would you like to find out?

And how amazing would it be to see your partner as clearly and completely as you do yourself?

That's where the MBTI® can help.

Discover and share your MBTI personality assessment results as part of your journey of discovery and growth as a couple.

Attach your two official MBTI® assessments to your Cohabitation Agreement as proof you are entering into your legal contract with your eyes and hearts wide open.

The MBTI® – what couples are saying

(all quotes from Amazon.com)

I shared my MBTI results with my boyfriend and we laughed so hard we nearly cried, because they described our relationship SO EXACTLY it was scary.

Anybody in a relationship would benefit from the MBTI. You become more aware of you and your partner's complexes. Accept that people are different.

I loved the MBTI. I totally recognised myself. Knowing my personality type showed me how to embrace my weaknesses as well as my strengths. Highly recommended.

You will learn an enormous amount about yourself and everyone you come into contact with. I have been reassessing my interactions with family and friends ever since,

The single best thing EVER in my quest for self-understanding and meeting the right mate. Reading the results of my MBTI assessment feels like a big hug!

 

The MBTI® is the world's number one personality assessment. Every year over one million people take the MBTI® to:

Begin a lifelong journey self-discovery and personal growth.

Enrich their lives and the lives of those they love.

Seek guidance in relationships and other major life decisions.

Your personality type affects your relationships and every aspect of your life.

In use for five decades and translated into more than 15 different languages.

Reveals the four-letter code for your personality type.

Helps you understand normal differences in the way people think and interact – differences that can be the source of much misunderstanding.

 

The MBTI®
– how it works for couples

You each respond to about 100 statements – about yourself, how you respond in different situations, and how you communicate and relate with others.

You then review your responses and verify your results. The process takes about one hour.

Your responses are compiled to generate your official MBTI® Interpretative Report that reveals your personality type.

Your report (see sample) shows how you interact with others, and identifies your strengths and important areas for growth.

You discuss your MBTI® results as part of your shared journey towards greater personal understanding.

This helps get you both into the positive, healthy habit of sharing your feelings about each other and your interactions as a couple.

 

"Opposites attract. It's a basic law of the universe. We're drawn to someone because they're different. At first, it's exciting. However, once the novelty wears off, the difference seems more annoying than endearing. The result is nagging or trying to change your partner. And who wants to deal with someone who nags us all the time?

Understanding their MBTI personality types can help couples celebrate their differences get to know each other better. We all want to be with someone who loves us for who we are. Who doesn't want that?"

Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger

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    ISTJ ISFJ INFJ INTJ
    ISFP ISTP INFP INTP
    ESTP ESFP ENFP ENTP
    ESTJ ESFJ ENFJ ENTJ

    We take our time and do it right

    Also known as:

    The Duty Fulfiller

    The Examiner

    The Planner Inspector

    A high sense of duty

    Also known as:

    The Nurturer

    The Defender

    The Protector Supporter

    Lean on me

    Also known as:

    The Guardian

    The Overseer

    The Implementor Supervisor

    What can I do for you?

    Also known as:

    The Caregiver

    The Supporter

    The Facilitator Caretaker

    Ready to try anything once

    Also known as:

    The Mechanic

    The Crafter

    The Analyser Operator

    Sees much but shares little

    Also known as:

    The Artist

    The Composer Producer

    Making the most of the moment

    Also known as:

    The Doer

    The Persuader

    The Promoter Executor

    You only go around once in life

    Also known as:

    The Performer

    The Entertainer

    The Motivator Presenter

    Everything has room for improvement

    Also known as:

    The Mastermind

    The Scientist

    The Conceptualiser Director

    Still waters run deep

    Also known as:

    The Thinker

    The Engineer

    The Designer Theoriser

    Everything's fine – I'm in charge

    Also known as:

    The Executive

    The Chief

    The Strategist Mobiliser

    One exciting challenge after another

    Also known as:

    The Visionary

    The Originator

    The Explorer Inventor

    An inspiration to others

    Also known as:

    The Counsellor

    The Healer

    The Foreseer Developer

    Warm on the inside

    Also known as:

    The Idealist

    The Dreamer

    The Harmoniser Clarifier

    Life's smooth-talking persuaders

    Also known as:

    The Giver

    The Teacher

    The Envisioner Mentor

    There's always another way or another answer

    Also known as:

    The Inspirer

    The Discoverer Advocate

    How many different 'types' of people are there? And which one are you?


    According to the MBTI everyone falls into one of 16 different personality types. And discovering your MBTI type can help you understand and communicate with others in your life like never before.

    The 16 personality types can be grouped into four main categories of people.

    The Guardians

    Hard-working and super-dependable, we like to see everything running smoothly and people behaving appropriately (ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ESFJ).

    The Artisans

    Party time! You won't catch us staying too serious for too long. We want to have fun and make a splash (ISTP, ISFP, ESTP, ESFP).

    The Intellects

    We're focused on solving puzzles, seeing the big picture, and developing and implementing long-term plans (INTJ, INTP, ENTJ, ENTP).

    The Idealists

    What does it all mean? Our life is a journey to finding the deeper patterns beneath the everyday details (INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP).

    The MBTI® and the
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    Which one are you?

    The ISTJ personality

    ISTJs are super-reliable and dependable. ISTJs believe in getting it done, whatever 'it' may be.

    SEES SELF: a person never off-duty; a fair person, a person others may think dull.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to make sense of things. to contribute, to be efficient.

    IRRITATED BY: inefficiency and sloppiness; people who don't pull their weight, being contradicted by juniors.

    STRENGTHS: Precise, accurate, excellent powers of concentration, reliable finisher.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: ultra-reliable, well-mannered but difficult to really know, sometimes too perfect.

    DECIDES: easily on the basis of tangible evidence, thoughtfully and impersonally considered.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by conveying that they are always right, getting pernickety about rules.

    CHALLENGES: May have trouble adapting to change, and may not understand others' needs.

    An ISTJ on YouTube

    The ISTJ Group on Facebook

    The ISTJ mate

    A loyal and caring mate who will commit to a lasting relationship that is also a partnership.

    LOVE IS: Finding a mate with whom they can create a home and found a family.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Seriously. When an ISTJ says 'I do', they are in it for long haul.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Can usually move on after a relationships ends, but needs to understand why things did not work out.

    INTIMACY: An exchange of physical pleasure and release, typically conventional and regularly scheduled.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. By nature ISTJs are devoted partners who invest every effort to meet their obligations and duties.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who can recognise and appreciate the hard work they invest in supporting and/or running the family and household.

    You are dependable and unwavering source of security and stability to your partner. You are a practical person who is committed to the relationship, and will expect your partner to be also. You tend to be very traditional in all you do. So don't forget an ISTJ's anniversary or birthday.

    ISTJs have a strong respect for tradition and often assume typical gender roles in their relationships. ISTJs value stability, and tend to appreciate relationships that they can count on over the long term.
          ISTJs are resoundingly logical and can be stubborn once they've decided on the best course of action. They like things done their way!
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ISFJ personality

    ISFJs express caring and concern for others, in an orderly, well-regulated way.

    SEES SELF: a patient resource for people who in need of his or her service and care.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to be a loyal friend, a competent caretaker, to be needed and of service to others.

    IRRITATED BY: people who are rude, argumentative, late, noisy, sloppy, showy or unprepared.

    STRENGTHS: intensely loyal, strong sense of duty, diligent, protective and very patient.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: neat, charming, dutiful, obedient, perhaps too modest and serious.

    DECIDES: carefully, step by step based on facts as they affect people, dislikes risks.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by saying 'yes' too often and then resenting it, complaining behind people's backs.

    CHALLENGES: may allow themselves to become the doormats of whatever situation they are in.

    An ISFJ on YouTube

    The ISFJ Group on Facebook

    The ISFJ mate

    A loving and faithful partner who will make the comfort of their mate and family their number one priority in life.

    LOVE IS: Finding a mate with whom they can create a home and found a family.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Intensely. The ISFJ will often make their relationship with their partner the first priority in their life.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May have difficulty leaving a bad relationship and moving on with their life afterwards.

    INTIMACY: A way of strengthening and deeping the relationship bond. The ISFJ will deeply value their partner's responding affirmations.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. By nature ISFJs are caring, selfless partners and traditional, family-minded individuals.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A considerate and thoughtful partner who recognises their dedication and ability to nurture others.

    Dependable and unwavering, you bring a natural desire for cooperation to your romantic relationship, ISFJ. You are likely be the 'worrier' in the relationship. You show love to your mate by doing practical things and by saying 'I love you'.

    The ISFJ is generous, accommodating and loyal. ISFJs are dedicated to the task of taking care of their loved ones, and take their family responsibilities seriously. ISFJs can tend to put their partner's needs ahead of their own, and run the risk of being taken advantage of because of their desire to please others. They prize harmony and will often withdraw rather than engage in conflict.
          ISFJs appreciate a considerate and thoughtful partner who recognises their dedication and ability to nurture others.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ESTJ personality

    ESTJs ensure the world's work gets done. They can achieve a tremendous amount.

    SEES SELF: a simple, truthful person; a traditional leader focused life's necessary tasks.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to create order, manage others, get things done, and preserve stability.

    IRRITATED BY: rule breakers, scruffiness, disorder, disrespectful subordinates.

    STRENGTHS: boldness, courage, results-orientation, can take charge quickly, provides stability and predictability.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: good at getting to the point, quick to decide, can sometimes upset others.

    DECIDES: unemotionally. Can absorb and store the necessary facts to anticipate most situations.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: trying too hard, driving people too harshly, been rigid in views and hanging on to the past.

    CHALLENGES: may decide too quickly, may not see the need for change, may overlook the niceties to get results.

    An ESTJ on YouTube

    The ESTJ Group on Facebook

    The ESTJ mate

    A considerate and sociable partner who will invest great effort and energy into fulfilling their role in the relationship.

    LOVE IS: Finding a mate with whom they can create a home, found a family and share practical activities in a structured way.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Sensibly. When an ESTJ says 'I do', they are in it for long haul.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Is usually able to move on after a relationship ends.

    INTIMACY: A physical experience of closeness. ESTJs can be enthusiastic and athletic sexually, but may need to be more verbally expressive of their feelings.

    COMMITMENT: By nature ESTJs are dependable partners who invest every effort to meet their obligations and duties in a lifelong, commited relationship.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their responsibility and productivity, and who values their contribution to the relationship.

    Being a matter-of-fact person, ESTJ, you will desire to 'take charge' of the relationship. You express your love not so much in romantic gestures but in ordinary daily acts of caring and sacrifice. You seek practical and realistic solutions to personal conflicts.

    The ESTJ is dependable, responsible and opinionated. ESTJs appreciate routine and family traditions, and want stability,structure and security in their home life. ESTJs often want to dictate schedules and procedures for the people around them. Sometimes impatient with their partner's feelings, they may need to work on relaxing control.
          ESTJs value a partner who appreciates their responsibility and productivity, and one who notices the ESTJ's tangible contributions to the relationship.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ESFJ personality

    ESFJs excel at making people feel welcome. They focus on the practical, asking 'How will this work?'

    SEES SELF: as somebody who needs to organise things that others can't be bothered to complete.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to obtain warm approval and acceptance from others within a well-organised structure.

    IRRITATED BY: being ignored by others, untidiness, rudeness and unkept promises.

    STRENGTHS: exudes warmth and common sense, often achieves highly by planning and follow-through.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: a sociable, and generous and talkative person, but always seems in a hurry.

    DECIDES: quickly, sometimes too soon. May be indecisive with big choices.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by talking too much, being late, taking criticism personally, bearing grudges.

    CHALLENGES: desire for harmony can create difficulties and minimise thier effectiveness.

    An ESFJ on YouTube

    The ESFJ Group on Facebook

    The ESFJ mate

    A warmly caring, practical and sociable partner devoted to giving their intimate relationship a lot of special care and attention.

    LOVE IS: Finding a mate with whom they can create a home, found a family and lead a life of ordered security.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Deeply. Their relationship with their partner is often central to the ESFJ's life.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May find it difficult to accept the end of a relationship. Is likely to shoulder the blame for its failure.

    INTIMACY: An opportunity to express and exchange affection. The eager-to-please ESFJ places a lot of importance on making their partners happy.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. ESFJs are warm-hearted people whose own happiness is closely tied to that of their partners.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their contribution to the relationships, and who makes them feel safe, secure and cared for.

    You are likely to want to 'take charge' of the relationship. You are are typically generous with praise and appreciation, and need the same in return. As an ESFJ you are attracted to community involvement, and will like your mate to be also.

    The ESFJ is supportive, nurturing and reliable. ESFJs like an orderly life and want their partners to participate in a structured, organised lifestyle. ESFJs adhere strictly to their own moral code, and want a partner who agrees with thier core values. ESFJs dislike conflict. They prefer harmonious relationships and like a partner who is able to be loving and committed, even when the ESFJ has strong emotional reactions.
          ESFJs appreciate a partner who notices their efforts to provide for their families, and commends them on a job well done.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ISTP personality

    Confident, cool, detached, ISTPs lead a life based on impulse rather than purpose.

    SEES SELF: as ready for any challenge – as long as others don't keep pressing for emotional support.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to tackle the task at hand in the most effective way, regardless of rules and authority.

    IRRITATED BY: clinginess, emotionalism, rambling, and pomposity, people who caught up on single-issues.

    STRENGTHS: supreme trouble-shooter, swift thinker with practical ingenuity, leads by example.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: a confident, cool, detached, independent person, perhaps hard to read.

    DECIDES: on the basis of the immediate facts, can take tough decisions and admit errors.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by appearing secretive, cutting corners, changing their mind, refusing to show warmth.

    CHALLENGES: may move on before task is complete, keep important things to themselves.

    An ISTP on YouTube

    The ISTP Group on Facebook

    The ISTP mate

    The live-in-the-moment ISTP may need to stretch themselves outside their comfort zone to make a long-term commitment.

    LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can make the most of every moment, and share new experiences.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Passionately. ISTPs sensual and earthy individuals who crave excitement.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Able to leave a relationship relatively easily once it has ended and move on.

    INTIMACY: An earthy and passionate creature, the ISTP experience sex with all five senses. Lots of creativity, novelty and enthusiasm amidst romantic settings.

    COMMITMENT: Because they live entirely in the present, the ISTP thinks: 'I do for now.' For the ISTP, a lifelong relationship may be taken one day at a time.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who will allow them plenty of freedom to do their own thing.

    You are normally very kind and big-hearted with your mate, ISTP, and you excel at fixing things around the home. A private person by nature, you tend to keep your feelings to yourself, and you want your partner to allow you plenty of freedom to do your own thing.

    The ISTP is independent and calm. They are often handy around the house, and enjoy being useful to their partners as quick and able problem-solvers. ISTPs are fun-loving and adventurous, and will often encourage their partners to learn new and exciting physical skills. They are good at responding to their partner's immediate physical needs, but may be less adept at dealing with emotions.
          Often private, ISTPs tend to keep their feelings and reactions to themselves, and want their partners to allow them plenty of freedom to do their own thing.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ISFP personality

    In the ISFP is a love and sensitivity for all they experience in life. Only hard facts will motivate them.

    SEES SELF: realistically, accepting their limitations and gifts, and are happy with both.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to give service to others – but on their own terms.

    IRRITATED BY: show offs, know-it-alls, cynics and sceptics, harshness in personal style, personal disloyalty.

    STRENGTHS: focused on practicalities, loyal to their values, perfectionists when they care deeply.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: as calm, cheerful, sometimes dreamy or unwilling to accept responsibility.

    DECIDES: on the basis of common sense and what will keep everyone happy now, may put off difficult decisions.

    IRRITATES OTHERS BY: refusing to express needs, appearing gullible or indecisive.

    CHALLENGES: may withdraw, becomes sarcastic or succumb to illness, may not criticise others when needed.

    An ISFP on YouTube

    The ISFP Group on Facebook

    The ISFP mate

    A warm, intense and giving partner who seeks a lifelong, committed relationship.

    LOVE IS: Finding someone to care for and love, and who will provide them with positive affirmation.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Warmly. ISFPs are sensuous and earthy creatures with a love of all things beautiful.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Are usually able to move on with their lives after a relationship break-up.

    INTIMACY: Experiences lovemaking through their senses, and welcomes the chance to interact with their mate at this level. Actions speak louder than words.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. By nature ISFPs are gentle, caring partners with a warm outlook on life and love.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who takes the time to show spontaneous gestures of affection, and appreciates the ISFP's kind and helpful nature.

    Your natural desire to please your partner and children makes you a kind and big-hearted mate, ISFP. You have a natural affinity for animals, so your mate should not be surprised if you adopt stray puppies or cats! In mid-life you may be attracted by the idea of quiting the 'rat race'.

    The ISFP is loyal, patient and easygoing. Liking to maintain harmony, they may have difficulty asserting themselves and struggle with expressing feelings of anger or resentment. ISFPs are tolerant and uncritical, and adapt easily to their surroundings. They like to go with the flow and enjoy life from moment to moment.
          An ideal mate for an ISFP takes the time to show spontaneous gestures of affection and appreciates the ISFP's kind and helpful nature.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ESTP personality

    ESTPs are good-natured and can-do problem solvers. Things begin to happen when ESTPs are around.

    SEES SELF: as always enthusiastic and prepared to experiment with new ideas.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to meet real-world challenges with action and extract enjoyment on the way.

    IRRITATED BY: rules and regulations, everyday routines, people who don't deliver.

    STRENGTHS: fearlessness innovator, good problem-solvers, fun to be with.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: a ball of energy with a practical outlook, no hidden agendas, liberal yet materialistic.

    DECIDES: on the immediate needs of the moment, and moves on quickly to the next challenge.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by being abrasive, over-competitive, having a go at people.

    CHALLENGES: demands centre stage, short attention span, continual conflicts with authority.

    An ESTP on YouTube

    The ESTP Group on Facebook

    Some ESTP posts on Personality Cafe

    The ESTP mate

    A sweep-you-off-your-feet charmer who brings fun and energy into their personal relationship.

    LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can make the most of every moment, in a care-free, 'big kids' way.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Overwhelmingly. ESTP are rightly known for 'sweeping their partners off their feet'.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: More than other type, the ESTP is able to end a relationship that they no longer value.

    INTIMACY: An enjoyable way of making the most of the relationship in the present moment. Verbally affectionate.

    COMMITMENT: Living fully in the moment, ESTPs think: 'I do – for now.' A long-term relationship may be taken one day at a time.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who wants to live each moment to the full with an appetite for excitement and thrills.

    You are usually extremely attentive in public, smooth in social rituals and unfailingly generous with unexpected gifts, ESTP. You make an exciting, if somewhat unpredictable mate, which may give quieter type mates some anxiety and tension!

    The ESTP is fun-loving and pragmatic ESTPs tend tend to be attentive to their partners' physical needs, but may neglect the deeper emotional connections. Their orientation toward quick thinking may lead them to try to apply a solution before they fully understand the issues involved in a conflict, especially when complex and difficult emotions are involved.
          ESTPs do best in relationships when their partners allow them plenty of freedom to pursue excitement.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ESFP personality

    Live-life-to-the-full ESFPs are great company. They live almost entirely in the here-and-now.

    SEES SELF: realistically, with a disarming honesty and modesty.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to have friendships and share fun times with many.

    IRRITATED BY: people who see keep secrets from them, people who see prefer productivity over having fun.

    STRENGTHS: good-natured, excellent memory for facts and events, clever at getting around obstacles.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: an eternal optimist, enjoying the limelight, but overly silly at times.

    DECIDES: quickly on the basis of what is practical, Likes to obtain consensus and not offend others.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by desiring endless attention, being frivolous, consulting everybody on everything.

    CHALLENGES: may socialise too much, jump into action before carefully evaluating options, in continual need of with external stimulation.

    An ESFP on YouTube

    The ESFP Group on Facebook

    The ESFP mate

    The love-to-be-in-love ESFP wants to be happy and wants to bring happiness to their partner.

    LOVE IS: Finding someone to enjoy the moment with in ways that are fun, affectionate and warm, and without deep complexities.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Delightfully. ESFPs are sensual and kind-hearted people who love to make others happy.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: ESFPs are able to leave bad relationships, although they may not always find it easy.

    INTIMACY: Embraces and enjoys the experience with all five senses. Generous and warm, the ESFP is highly interested in making their partners happy.

    COMMITMENT: Living fully in the moment, ESFPs think: 'I do for now.' For an ESFP a long-term relationship may be taken one day at a time.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who is affectionate and who appreciates their caring, generosity and desire to be helpful to others.

    Genuinely generous and warm-hearted, ESFP, you just want to be happy, and to bring happiness to others. A long-term relationship may be taken one day at a time. To win your heart, your mate must realise that life is a party and join you in celebrating it!

    Tthe ESFP is generous, friendly, sympathetic and affectionate. They are eager to please their partners and motivated to create a fun, harmonious, and active home. They tend to avoid conflict and may have trouble being serious. They are supportive of their mates and try to take good care of their families, but they may spend money impulsively.
          An ideal mate for an ESFP is affectionate and appreciative of the ESFP's generosity and desire to be helpful to others.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The INTJ personality

    In the INTJ's eyes, even the best can be made better. They are among the most independent of types.

    SEES SELF: as someone who must keep on improving knows they know, and knows what they don't know.

    OVERRIDING NEED: independence and perfection in those things that interest them.

    IRRITATED BY: people who pry too much into their private world, lack of commitment from others.

    STRENGTHS: can organise ideas into action go achieve goals, have a strong vision of what is achievable.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: as unflappable and self-reliant to a point of being intimidating, difficult to know.

    DECIDES: on the basis on what seems fair, may decide sometimes too quickly but willing to reassess.

    IRRITATES OTHERS BY: by been too demanding, too task-focused and taking too many things for granted.

    CHALLENGES: may appear too unyielding, may have difficulty letting go of impractical ideas.

    An INTJ on YouTube

    The INTJ Group on Facebook

    The INTJ mate

    Seeks a positive, healthy relationship. Although the INTJ may not show emotion easily, they make a creative and devoted partner.

    LOVE IS: Finding someone to share their vision of the world, their path through life, making each day better in every way than the last.

    FALLS IN LOVE: With their head first. INTJs bring a lot of depth, creativity and intensity and insight to their realtionships.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: If they have decided it is the right thing to do, INTJs are able to leave a relationship when it's over.

    INTIMACY: Their natural creativity and intensity can shine through in the INTJ's sexual life. They may need to be more verbally expressive with their partner.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. By nature INTJs are 'improvers' always keen to make their relationships better.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their ability to offer creative solutions to problems.

    Your perfectionist streak seek a positive, healthy relationship, INTJ. You are generally highly intelligent, capable, and a good listener. You have an inventive and playful streak, and will bring a lot of depth, creativity, intensity and insight to your relationship.

    The INTJ is loyal but independent. INTJs can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements. However, they often do not see the need for affection or niceties. INTJs find the process of discussing emotions messy and disorganised.
          INTJs value a partner that allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their efficacy, insight and ability to offer creative solutions to problems.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The INTP personality

    For the INTP, the world exists to be understood. They have little patience with 'usual' ways of doing things.

    SEES SELF: a researcher, a seeker after truth who is always learning.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to have continuous access to high quality ideas.

    IRRITATED BY: rules, structure, people who seem less than truthful with themselves, emotional self-indulgence.

    STRENGTHS: design logical and complex systems, applies logic, analysis, and critical thinking on issues.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: as clever, disorganised, easy-going until principles are violated.

    DECIDES: with bursts of mental energy on the basis of rationality and facts.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by analysing everything to death, not delivering on promises if something more interesting comes along.

    CHALLENGES: may be too abstract and over-intellectualise, may neglect teamwork and harmony.

    An INTP on YouTube

    The INTP mate

    A faithful, loyal and passionate yet easy-to-live-with partner who takes their commitment to their relationship seriously,

    LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can share a faithful, loyal and affectionate attachment.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Very cautiously. To the INTP dealing with emotion brings with it the fear of great potential pain.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May have difficulty leaving bad relationships. But a partner who violates the INTP's values will be cut off forever.

    INTIMACY: With a vivid enthusiasm INTP's can make the most of the moment with great intensity. They may need to be more verbally expressive with their partner.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. INTPs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their ingenuity and problem-solving ability, and one who understands their need for autonomy.

    You have no interest in relationship game-playing, INTP, and you tend to hold back until the other person has proven themselves 'worthy'. But once committed to the relationship, you will form a faithful attachment filled with genuine affection.

    The INTP is an independent and clever partner. They enjoy engaging intellectually with a partner who can match their quick wit. They tend to analyse the theory behind everything, and may interpret human interactions with the detached logic of a psychological researcher. When others get too emotional, they typically prefer to retreat to their own world of thoughts and ideas.
          INTPs value a partner that appreciates their ingenuity and problem-solving ability, and one that understands their need for autonomy.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ENTJ personality

    ENTJs rise to leadership roles of every type, and excel at directing others to achieve goals.

    OVERRIDING NEED: be in charge or have control over situations, systems and people.

    SEES SELF: as always on probation and under observation.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: as larger than life, energetic, well spoken, confident, funny and a commanding nature.

    DECIDES: by generating lots of solutions and making a swift, logical conclusion. Can improvise well.

    IRRITATED BY: people who beat about the bush, whingers, bureaucratic detail.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by not listening to them, jumping to conclusions without evidence, fidgeting.

    STRENGTHS: excellent leadership skills, inspires change, responsive to followers' needs, gets the job done.

    CHALLENGES: drives too hard, gets caught up in details, becomes overly critical of self and others.

    An ENTJ on YouTube

    The ENTJ Group on Facebook

    The ENTJ mate

    An enthusiastic partner who take their commitments very seriously and seeks to make the relationship work.

    LOVE IS: The quest for an equally robust partner to be at their side on their journey through a high-achieving life.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Energetically. As challenge and a growth opportunity to be embraced passionately and fully.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: If they have decided it is the right thing to do, ENTJs are to leave a relationship without looking back.

    INTIMACY: Will lead their partner on creative lovemaking adventures, where the focus is on mutual learning and the sharing of affection.

    COMMITMENT: By nature ENTJs see a lifelong, commited relationship as a challenge to be met successfully.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who respects and appreciates their desire to leave their mark on the world.

    A relationship with you, ENTJ, is not for the faint-hearted. What you seek – and need – is an equally robust partner who can give back as good as you give them. Firm but usually fair-minded, you see a successful and mutually rewarding relationship as part of a high-achieving life.

    The ENTJ is a commanding and challenging partner. ENTJs prefer to have their homes and lives structured and organised, and may be domineering in imposing this structure on others. Enthusiastic and analytical problem-solvers, they may neglect to attend to their partner's feelings, preferring to reason things through logically. They can also have trouble listening patiently, because of their strong desire to problem-solve.
          ENTJs value a partner who respects and appreciates their competence, intelligence and effectiveness.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ENTP personality

    ENTPs approach new projects with enthusiasm and imagination, and are often fluent conversationalists.

    SEES SELF: as telling people as it is, knows and can laugh at own failings.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to excel in their area of interest, be right, first and have the last word.

    IRRITATED BY: people who won't engage in discussions, seem stodgy, and who won't try or understand them.

    STRENGTHS: generates new ways of doing things, takes initiative and spurs others on, enjoys complex challenges.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: funny, competitive, forceful at times, overpowering with words and actions.

    DECIDES: quickly, with an eye to the future outcomes, may change mind rapidly to take heed of new data.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by wanting to be in the limelight, have the last word and oblivious-to-others attitude.

    CHALLENGES: picks arguments, throws tantrums, withdraws from others, neglects self.

    An ENTP on YouTube

    The ENTP Group on Facebook

    The ENTP mate

    An enthusiastic partner always interested in positive, constant growth for themselves, their partner and their relationship.

    LOVE IS: The quest for someone on their wavelength who shares their vision of personal fulfilment and growth.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Enjoyably. Typically ENTPs are up-beat, optimistic people who are fun to be around.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: ENTPs are generally able to move on with their lives after leaving a stagnant, stifling or unhealthy relationship.

    INTIMACY: A physical act that conveys affection. By nature ENTPs enjoy spontaneity and free expression, and fully embrace new ideas and experiences.

    COMMITMENT: Capable of taking their commitments seriously. But an ENTP may walk away when a relationship no longer offers the opportunity for growth.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their ingenuity and competence, and who supports them in their life journey of continuous discovery, growth and fulfillment.

    In romantic relationships as in the rest of life, you are focused on improvement and growth. You enthusiastically embrace new ideas and projects for yourself and your mate. Your sparkling enthusiasiam and good intentions, ENTP, are usually quite positive and healthful in a relationship.

    The ENTP is inventive and enthusiastic. ENTPs have an interest in improving themselves and their relationships. ENTPs are typically supportive of their mates, particularly when it comes to encouraging career achievement. ENTPs have little interest in order, routine or mundane household chores.
          The ideal mate for an ENTP appreciates their ingenuity, competence, and perceptiveness, and supports them in their ever-changing interests, schemes, and social pursuits.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The INFJ personality

    Natural visionaries, INFJs can easily spend an entire day just dreaming and imagining.

    SEES SELF: a deep-thinker in love with new ideas and insights, but somewhat detached from others.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to understand the complexity of people and life.

    IRRITATED BY: hypocrisy, limits on personal freedom, impersonal details and mundane tasks.

    STRENGTHS: provides future-oriented, inspirational insights, follows through with integrity and consistency.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: creative, insighful, stubborn, and hard to get to know.

    DECIDES: through private pondering, may make up mind too quickly and then worry endlessly.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by getting over-emotional, going off on irrelevant tangents, using overly complex language.

    CHALLENGES: may take criticism personally, blurt out feelings unwisely, withdraw socially for long periods.

    An INFJ on YouTube

    The INFJ Group on Facebook

    The INFJ mate

    A warm and considerate partner, the INFJ takes their commitments seriously and seeks a lifelong soul-mate relationship.

    LOVE IS: The quest for, above all else, a soul-mate. INFJs are interested only in the perfect relationship.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Slowly. With their head first and then with all their heart. INFJs have a depth of caring not usually found in others.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Can leave a relationship once they're sure it's over. A partner who violates the INFJ's values will be cut off forever.

    INTIMACY: A near-spiritual experience of bonding heart and soul. It's important for INFJs to know that their mates are happy.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. INFJs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who respects their deeply held values and and who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.

    As an INFJ you will settle for nothing less than a soul partner with whom you can bond in an almost spiritual sense. You take commitment seriously, and you want to share your complex inner life and communicate intimately about what most concerns and drives you.

    Tthe INFJ is supportive and guided by a sense of integrity. The INFJ is encouraging of their partners dreams, aspirations and achievements. INFJs seek harmony in their relationships, but when it comes to their core values and ethics, they are unwilling to compromise. INFJs are happiest when they feel they and their mates are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings.
          INFJs value a partner who respects their deeply-held values, and one who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The INFP personality

    INFPs typically hide their inner warmth until you get to know them well, and may struggle with perfectionism.

    SEES SELF: without illusions, but constantly hopes to improve.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to expand self understanding.

    IRRITATED BY: abrasiveness, materialism, intrusions into privacy, efficiency at expense of human cost.

    STRENGTHS: encourages creativity and participation, offers insights with warmth and positive support.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: as perhaps shy and indecisive, but capable of occasional and surprising toughness.

    DECIDES: by putting self inside an issue, may postpone closure by generating so many options.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by untidiness, guilt trips, daydreaming, rushing into unwise actions.

    CHALLENGES: may delay both starting and finishing things, allow inner critical voice to destroy confidence.

    An INFP on YouTube

    The INFP Group on Facebook

    The INFP mate

    A warm, loyal and romantically-minded partner who seeks a loving and committed relationship of deeply-felt, sincere love.

    LOVE IS: The quest for an affirming, proud and affectionate love match that will stand the test of time.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Romantically. INFPs make the health of their relationships central in their lives.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May find it difficult to accept the end of a relationship. Are likely to blame themselves for its failure.

    INTIMACY: An expression of deep-seated love and affection. May value their mate's satisfaction above their own.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. INFPs feel a tremendous loyalty to their relationship.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.

    Behind your mild-mannered exterior, INFP, lies a highly passionate core of feelings and values. Gaining your attention and love is like accessing a primal force, it is honest, unqualified and nearly boundless – with the right partner knows how to nurture it.

    The INFP is nurturing, empathic and loyal. INFPs select their lovers based on a strong bond and common values. They tend to be open-minded and accepting of another's behaviour so long as their core values are not violated. INFPs also need a lot of independent time to think and reflect. They often keep negative reactions to themselves because they are reluctant to engage in confrontation.
          INFPs value a partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ENFJ personality

    ENFJs radiate a natural charisma. Of out genuine concern they will work tirelessly on behalf of others.

    SEES SELF: a modest, hard-working optimist, but often seeing others more clearly than they see themselves.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to be treated by others as never less than an equal.

    IRRITATED BY: rudeness, cynics and pessimists.

    STRENGTHS: provides leadership and decisiveness, highly articulate with excellent social skills.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: as friendly, open, nurturing – but not the pushover they may first think.

    DECIDES: by what seems right for people in the long term, they may want to tie up the loose ends too quickly.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by trying to rescue people unnecessarily, being bossy, dramatic, over-trusting.

    CHALLENGES: may over-idealise others and neglect self, be oversensitive to indifference.

    An ENFJ on YouTube

    The ENFJ Group on Facebook

    The ENFJ mate

    A warm, committed lover who brings out the best in their partner and who will go to great lengths for the sake of 'The Relationship'.

    LOVE IS: Finding a mate with whom they can create a home, found a family and lead a life of ordered security.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Deeply. Their relationship with their partner is often central to the ESFJ's life.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May find it difficult to accept the end of a relationship. Is likely to shoulder the blame for its failure.

    INTIMACY: An opportunity to express and exchange affection. The eager-to-please ESFJ places a lot of importance on making their partners happy.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. ESFJs are warm-hearted people whose own happiness is closely tied to that of their partners.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their contribution to the relationships, and who makes them feel safe, secure and cared for.

    No other type falls in love as quickly, as strongly and as passionately, as you, ENFJ. When you love someone, you may put them on a pedestal and idealise them to the point where others may occasionally begin to doubt your soundness of mind!

    The ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. They are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt.
          The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

    The ENFP personality

    To the ENFP life is a creative adventure. They are natural inspirers and energisers of others.

    SEES SELF: a person on a never-ending journey to develop their true self.

    OVERRIDING NEED: to be true to themselves, to help others, to be liked and admired.

    IRRITATED BY: being stifled, having to remain static, people who seem to be unfeeling towards others.

    STRENGTHS: can draw people together around a common purpose, more likely to praise than criticise.

    SEEN BY OTHERS: nice, warm, welcoming to strangers, at times at little too silly.

    DECIDES: by involving others, can live with ambiguity if the 'big picture' seems OK.

    IRRITATES OTHERS: by being untidy, late for appointments, careless with possessions.

    CHALLENGES: may delay completion of tasks because of perfectionism, try to please too many people at once.

    An ENFP on YouTube

    The ENFP Group on Facebook

    The ENFJ mate

    A warm, considerate, passionate and deeply committed partner who makes the relationship a positive place to be.

    LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can share a faithful, loyal and affectionate attachment.

    FALLS IN LOVE: Imaginatively. ENFPs can feel love and affection that is almost childlike in its purity.

    FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Will be slow to leave a relationship into which they have put so much energy. But when they fall out of love, they rebound quickly.

    INTIMACY: Creative playful and affectionate lovers who whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates.

    COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, committed relationship. ENFPs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.

    MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who supports their creativity and caring, and who expresses appreciation for their unique qualities openly and often.

    You take your relationships very seriously, ENFP, but also approach them with a child-like enthusiasm and energy. Energetic, sparkling and genuinely warm, you seek and demand authenticity and depth, and will invest a lot into in the health of your relationship.

    The ENFP is warm, encouraging and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them. When conflict arises, the ENFP can sometimes withdraw, therefore ENFPs need a supportive partner to help them express any hurt feelings.
          The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.
                      Molly Owens, Personality Desk

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    4.1 Couple Compatibility

    4.1.1 [Romeo] and [Juliet] recognise that an understanding of self, as it is formed by nature and shaped by circumstances, is the foundation to the understanding of others.
    4.1.2 [Romeo] and [Juliet] have each sought, over time and in depth, to discover what in life and love that brings them most joy and fulfilment, and to identify the ways of living and loving that best enables each to maximise their personal gifts as spouse, parent and citizen.
    4.1.3 [Romeo] and [Juliet], aided by insights from the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI®), have each sought to discover the nature and extent of their personality preferences, and to explore and develop their self-awareness and self-understanding as regards their innate approaches to and outlook on life and love.
    4.1.4 [Romeo] and [Juliet], again through the MBTI®, have each worked to understand, both in everyday circumstances and in times of challenge, where they source their life energy and focus their attention, how they take in information, how they relate to the outer world and others around them, and how they set priorities, form opinions and make decisions.
    4.1.5 [Romeo] and [Juliet], again through the MBTI®, have sought to understand how their personality preferences affect their interactions as a couple. They have done so not merely to minimise occasions of miscommunication and misunderstanding, but also to understand and value each other's gifts, learn how to give and receive appreciation and love, and discover, as they advance through successive life stages, how each can best contribute to the personal growth and development of the other.
    4.1.6 [Romeo] and [Juliet], have each completed the online MBTI® Complete process and obtained their results in a personalised Interpretive Report - Form M (B), copies of which are attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.