ESFJ  What can I do
for you  

You notice what others need in their day-by-day lives and try to provide it, ESFJ. You work with others to complete tasks accurately and on time. You want to be appreciated for who you are and what you contribute.

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Natural hosts & hostesses

ESFJs excel at making people feel welcome. They like to put other people at ease, can find the right words to say on any occasion.

The practical caregivers

ESFJs focus on the practical, asking ‘How will this work?’ They believe that challenges can be overcome if people work together.


ESFJ personality profile

SEES SELF: as somebody who needs to organise things that others can’t be bothered to complete.

OVERRIDING NEED: to obtain warm approval and acceptance from others within a well-organised structure.

IRRITATED BY: being ignored by others, untidiness, rudeness and unkept promises.

STRENGTHS: exudes warmth and common sense, often achieves highly by planning and follow-through.

SEEN BY OTHERS: a sociable, and generous and talkative person, but always seems in a hurry.

DECIDES quickly, sometimes too soon. May be indecisive with big choices.

IRRITATES OTHERS: by talking too much, being late, taking criticism personally, bearing grudges.

CHALLENGES: their desire for harmony can create difficulties and prevent them being as effective as they would like.

The ESFJ is also known as The Caregiver, The Supporter or The Facilitator Caretaker.

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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

Carl Gustav Jung

Swiss psychiatrist whose work inspired
the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI ®)

ESFJ careers, hobbies and examples

LIKELY ESFJ CAREERS: Outstanding in service-based occupations where human interaction is vital: sales, teaching, counselling, supervision, child-care, social work and coaching. Extremely organised, their job satisfaction comes through helping others.

LIKELY FAMOUS ESFJs: US president William McKinley, Jack Benny, Mary Tyler Moore, Sally Field, Danny Glover.

LIKELY ESFJ HOBBIES: Fond of celebrating birthdays and family-related celebrations, organising and hosting social events of all kinds.

LIKELY FICTIONAL ESFJs: Hoss Cartwright (Bonanza), Leonard ‘Bones’ McCoy (Star Trek), Monica (Friends), Haleh (ER), Mrs. Molly Weasley (Harry Potter), Donald Duck (Disney cartoons), Rabbit (Winnie the Pooh).

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The MBTI® and your
Cohabitation Agreement

cohab money cohabitation agreementYour Cohabitation Agreement sets out your shared vision of your life together in a legal document.

Taking the MBTI® demonstrates that you have each taken the time to understand your personalities and value your differences.

Completing the MBTI® also shows that you are entering into your Cohabitation Agreement with your hearts and your eyes wide open.

Ensure your Cohabitation Agreement is based on a solid foundation of open and honest sharing of all relevant information by:

  • Each completing an official MBTI® personality assessment.
  • Discussing your MBTI® results as part of your shared journey towards greater personal understanding and growth.
  • Attaching your two MBTI® personality reports as exhibits to your Cohabitation Agreement.

Below is a sample MBTI clause in a Cohabitation Agreement. Get your free Cohabitation Agreement here.

4.1 Personality and Values

4.1.1 [Romeo] and [Juliet] recognise that an understanding of self, as it is formed by nature and shaped by circumstances, is the foundation to the understanding of others.
4.1.2 [Romeo] and [Juliet], aided by insights from the Myers-Briggs type Inventory (MBTI), have each sought to discover their personality preferences and understand how their personality preferences affect their interactions as a couple. This they have done to understand and value each other’s gifts, learn how to give and receive appreciation and love, and discover, as they advance through successive life stages, how each can best contribute to the personal growth and development of the other.
4.1.3 [Romeo] and [Juliet] have each completed the online MBTI® Complete process and obtained their results in a personalised Interpretive Report – Form M (B), copies of which are attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.
4.1.4 [Romeo] and [Juliet] in consultation with a certified MBTI practitioner, have each additionally obtained a personalised Interpretive Report – Form Q (B), copies of which are attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.

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