Relationships and the INFP
Behind your mild-mannered exterior, INFP, lies a highly passionate core of feelings and values. Gaining your attention and love is like accessing a primal force, it is honest, unqualified and nearly boundless – with the right partner knows how to nurture it.
The INFP as a Mate
A warm, loyal and romantically-minded partner who seeks a loving
and committed relationship of deeply-felt, sincere love.
LOVE IS: The quest for an affirming, proud and affectionate love match that will stand the test of time.
FALLS IN LOVE: Romantically. INFPs make the health of their relationships central in their lives.
FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May find it difficult to accept the end of a relationship. Are likely to blame themselves for its failure.
INTIMACY: An expression of deep-seated love and affection. May value their mate’s satisfaction above their own.
COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, commited relationship. INFPs feel a tremendous loyalty to their relationship.
MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who is committed, supportive, patient and loving.
The INFP in Relationships
Strengths and Challenges
- Deep capacity for love and caring, and sensitive and perceptive about other’s are feeling.
- Loyal and committed, and driven to meet other’s needs.
- Flexible and likely to recognise and appreciate other’s need for space.
- Strives for ‘win-win’ situations.
- Nurturing, supportive and encouraging..
- Extreme dislike of conflict or criticism, and strongly motivated by wish to avoid hurting or upsetting others.
- Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation.
- Perfectionistic tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit.
Lifetypes: Understand Yourself and Make the Most of Who You Are
LifeTypes is a book about you. It’s designed to help you know and accept yourself … to let your true self guide you in everything you do. With this book MBTI experts Sandra Hirsh and Jean Kummerow can help you develop a complete, accurate psychological self-portrait – and show you how to achieve success and joy in life and relationships.
For the INFP, love is a very deep commitment, and one that is not easily attained. They have ideals, and therefore reality may be carefully scrutinized.
With their ideal firmly envisioned, the first date with that special person is carefully planned and prepared for, and often every aesthetic thing is taken care of. The flowers are in place, the right wine is ordered, and the proper meal is prepared. INFPs may have difficulty sharing their feelings about others.
They keep so many of those feelings inside that they may forget to tell their partner how much they love and appreciate them. They also need reminders of their partner’s love.
When things go wrong in a relationship, the INFP takes it to heart but does not readily discuss it with others. They may not be willing to communicate to let others know how they are feeling. When scorned, they are very hurt and may overreact in an almost maudlin way
The MBTI® and your
Your Cohabitation Agreement sets out your shared vision of your life together in a legal document.
Taking the MBTI® demonstrates that you have each taken the time to understand your personalities and value your differences.
Completing the MBTI® also shows that you are entering into your Cohabitation Agreement with your hearts and your eyes wide open.
Ensure your Cohabitation Agreement is based on a solid foundation of open and honest sharing of all relevant information by:
4.1 Personality and Values
|4.1.1||[Romeo] and [Juliet] recognise that an understanding of self, as it is formed by nature and shaped by circumstances, is the foundation to the understanding of others.|
|4.1.2||[Romeo] and [Juliet], aided by insights from the Myers-Briggs type Inventory (MBTI), have each sought to discover their personality preferences and understand how their personality preferences affect their interactions as a couple. This they have done to understand and value each other’s gifts, learn how to give and receive appreciation and love, and discover, as they advance through successive life stages, how each can best contribute to the personal growth and development of the other.|
|4.1.3||[Romeo] and [Juliet] have each completed the online MBTI® Complete process and obtained their results in a personalised Interpretive Report – Form M (B), copies of which are attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.|
|4.1.4||[Romeo] and [Juliet] in consultation with a certified MBTI practitioner, have each additionally obtained a personalised Interpretive Report – Form Q (B), copies of which are attached to this Agreement as part of Exhibit Set C.|